Dear Ian in 1997 i lost my mum , we were very close . I was told to attend work the day the hospital had said she would not last much longer . and also did not see her to say good bye at the chappel of rest . the day before she was due to be burried i had a dream about her i was with my daughter we some how ended up at my perants home . mum and dad were there she seemed large as life we chatted and before i was due to leave she tryed to hand me some money , i said i dident need it she then said thst she was to leave the next day and i would not see here again , i said that i dident want her to leave . she said she had to it got a bit emotional , well i did i then woke uk crying and still wonder what it meant dad past away in 2003 i never dream about him but was there when he past a way and even attended the chappel of rest , p.s sorry about the spelling mistakes hope you can help
Thanks for getting in contact and please don’t worry about your spelling – our dreams are the language of our unconscious and they don’t follow any grammatical rules.
When someone very close to us passes away, part of our grieving process is accepting that they are no longer here in this physical existence with us. When your dad passed away, the fact that you were there and attended the chapel of rest meant that it was much easier for you to accept that he was no longer with you.
With you mother, this was more challenging because of work circumstances, you could not be present at her passing and say good bye at the chapel of rest, which made it more difficult for you to accept that she was gone.
So what your dream is doing is helping you to accept your mother’s passing by acknowledging that she had to leave. When we dream of money, we are dreaming of our worth and our value to others, so in your dream, your mother is telling you how valuable you are and encouraging you not to be afraid of showing your value to others. Although you didn’t accept the money in the dream, the message from your unconscious is that your mother was extremely proud of you and that you should not be shy or worry that sometimes others don’t seem to realise your value. You should just be your own man and do what you feel is right, rather than doing what others expect you to do.
It’s very difficult for us when we lose a parent, and while we have to let them go, we know that their love never leaves us.