[kml_flashembed movie=”http://ianwallacedreams.com/wp-content/uploads/flash/sea-anemones.swf” height=”180″ width=”240″ /]As you create offers and make space, you become more and more of an attractor and the space that you create becomes more and more powerful and attracts more and more people into it. You know you have made a successful space when everyone wants to be in it. Suddenly it seems like everyone wants to be your friend and wants to be in your dreaming space. From your perspective, you think they are being drawn to the unique attraction that you have created and that’s what has drawn them into this space.

Although this may seem rewarding and flattering to you, the real truth is that it is usually the space that you have created that people are attracted to rather than just you. This might be your own attractive qualities or something attractive you are creating the space with. However, what they really want are your possibilities, your potential for themselves and they invade your space because they want the space where their own magic can happen.

Space invaders often couldn’t care less about you and your attractor; usually that is the first thing that they want to get rid off when they enter your space. This happens time and time again when organisations merge and acquire each other. A group of people has created an attractive thing and another company acquires that group so they can own the space. Usually they end up with all the tangible assets, all the processes and procedures and the fragments of meaning, but somewhere along the line they just lose the space that attracted them in the first place. This is where mergers and acquisitions nearly always go wrong.

An obvious answer is to encourage potential space invaders to create their own spaces, rather than trying to take control of your unique spaces. However, the one thing that everyone is inexorably drawn towards and then almost invariably runs away from is an authentic glimpse into themselves and where they find meaning. Anything so they don’t have to confront their own fears, brilliance, magnificence, and power. Rather than sharing our myths, beating our drums, and painting our hunts, it can be easier to hide behind PowerPoint platitudes and defensively conceal our real selves.

But one of the great things about dreaming space is that it is elastic space. Our dreams are boundless and only limited by the Hubble constant of our ever expanding awareness. Our imaginations are abundant but we often try to police them and control them by inappropriate intellectual property initiatives. Much more effort is put into locking down our DRMs than opening up our dreams.

There is always space to create new dreaming space, but it takes courage to stop desiring the special spaces that others create and to step into the unknown and uncertainty of creating your own dreams. And as others are attracted into your spaces, the most valuable thing you can do is to show them how to create their own magic, rather than trying to lock them into yours. And remember, it’s always about the space that you or your object creates, and never really about you or your object.

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